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July, 2007

The Fundamentals of Forgiveness: Clearing Your Unconscious To Lead A Happy Life

By Self Persuasion 9 Comments

“Forgiveness means that you do not hold others responsible for your experiences.” ~Gary Zukav

Hi Persuader,

What do you have in your attic (or basement)? Old clothes that don’t fit anymore? Paperwork that you’ll never need? The children’s old toys that they don’t care about anymore, but to which you have a sentimental attachment? Maybe boxes and boxes of things that belonged to a deceased relative that you do not need?

Maybe these things are holding you back, maybe they’re not. They are certainly weighing you down, if not physically, perhaps psychologically. But unless you have a problem with ‘collecting’ or being a pack rat, then the stuff in your attic might not be that big a deal.

Now I’d like you to think of the things that you’re storing in your mind. Sure, there are some great memories of weddings and births, successes and the pleasures of life. There are even some sad thoughts, which are absolutely necessary to create a complete life, the ups the downs, the ebb and flow, the yin and yang. There’s knowledge up there, and appreciation of beauty, and ability – the ability to persuade, the ability to change the oil in your car, the ability to build a campfire or make your grandmother’s secret soup recipe.

But there’s some stuff in there that needs to be disposed of and in an upcoming article (“Cleaning Out The Trash”) I’m going to to give you the specific steps on how to shed some of that resentment and bitterness.

The short answer is forgiveness.

The purpose of forgiveness is not to benefit the other person that you’re forgiving (though it probably will). The purpose of forgiveness is is not to make you a better person (though it probably will). And the purpose of forgiveness is not to make you right with God (though if you believe that it will, it probably will help).

The purpose of forgiveness is to clear out what is holding you back from achieving your dreams. To clear out that part in your unconscious mind that is constantly pulling and dragging that negativity from you.

The Bible says, ‘By beholding we become changed.’

What does that mean? It means you become more like what you focus on. Are you focusing on the greats of business and money creation? If you’re not, what are you focusing on? Are you focusing on your day-to-day drudgery? What is that going to cause you? More day-to-day drudgery.

If we’re focused on bitterness and challenges and lessons hurt, then a part of us is, all day, every day, bringing a piece of that to our lives over and over. I believe that one of the greatest reasons we are here on planet earth is to learn to understand that we’re here to be able to manifest anything we want.

Let’s divide up our unconscious mind into sections and let’s say that we can lump all of our troubles, our problems, our bitterness, our resentments, all into one area of our unconscious. For sake of argument, let’s say we’ve done that now.

How much of our unconscious mind is tied up with that garbage?

If we took all of this anger and bitterness and we assigned it a value in our unconscious mind… Well like, let’s say that there is 5% down in there somewhere, even 1%. How would that affect you? It’s like Chinese water torture. It’s a drip, drip, drip, pain, pain, pain, agony, agony, constant problems dripping, dripping, never stopping. If we could somehow root that out, get rid of it, and instead, focus on our universes, what would our life become?

The process of forgiveness is how to clear that out. You’ll understand this more clearly when we continue that discussion in two days.

Until then, think about the fundamentals of forgiveness… How do you think they affect your ability to persuade?

Kenrick E. Cleveland

What's Your Story? Using Stories To Persuade The Affluent

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Hi Persuader,

What’s Your Story? Using Stories To Persuade The Affluent

“To be a person is to have a story to tell.” ~Isaac Dennison

Telling persuasive stories is the ultimate form of persuasion that exists. People are naturally wired to be able to hear your stories. It’s just a phenomenal way to communicate and it’s a phenomenal way to persuade.

You literally could do nothing but tell stories and be very, very successful.

If you aren’t telling a story and telling it persuasively, you’re missing out on a huge amount of persuasive power that you could otherwise have in your possession. Stories put the listener in a place that let’s him/her more easily accept what’s being said. Stories bypass resistance and touch the heart. That’s the key. Everyone wants to feel proud and important. You can tap into these feelings very effectively with stories.

People need to have faith in you, to believe in you, and stories give you the chance to persuade them to do so. Facts, on the other hand, will not accomplish that.

Most people have well-trained B.S. detectors. They don’t want to feel persuaded; they want to make up their own mind. Stories give them the ability to make up their own mind the way you want them to, to see what you want them to see. That’s the beauty of stories.

People need to have two questions answered in order to trust you: 1) Who are you? – which is what you’re going to be focusing on – and 2) Why are you here? Once they know those two things, they can trust you.

When you’re sitting down in front of an affluent prospect talking and they don’t know who you are or why you’re there… they’re not really going to trust you.

You could say “I’m an advisor and they need help with their money.” Nope. That’s not it.

Your affluent prospects really have to know who you are and why you’re there.

Imagine the power of this strategy. Now imagine it combined with the physical and verbal rapport techniques that I teach in my Persuasion Factor program and with my Elite Coaching Club members.

Now do you see why it’s important to keep sharpening yuor saw with these techniques?

There’s so much to learn. If you feel like you need more support, you can wait to read all of my future emails in the coming months, or you can get on the fast track by starting with my Persuasion Factor program. www.PersuasionFactor.com.

But it’s a beautiful thing to be able to add all these techniques and strategies together and telling a story is the perfect format for doing just that.

A story can drastically speed up the process of learning who you are and in turn cut down on the time it takes for your clients to trust you. Instead of having to discover who you are over a long period of time, a story can stimulate the clients into seeing that very quickly.

Stories mesmerize and suck people in. They fit into the indirect permissive model, not the direct authoritarian model of communication. And once again, therein is one of the most significant powers of stories.

What’s your story? Are you from humble beginnings? Have you overcome adversity? Did you beat the odds in some facet of your life? Is your story a fairy tale?

Map out your story – could be something as simple as your struggle with an employer that forced you to set out on your own and seek your own fortune, or it could be something as vast as a family history. You’ll know it when it feels right – and so will your affluent prospects.

Until next time,

Kenrick E. Cleveland

Taking It Down A Notch

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Taking It Down A Notch: The Power of Simplicity in Persuasion

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.”—Henry David Thoreau

My daughter, Victoria, is becoming a beautiful pianist. Beginning piano students have a huge body of knowledge to learn—how to read music, hand position, tempo, foot pedals, where on the keyboard to place their hands. It takes lots and lots of effort to make a piece sound effortless. Students are not simply given a Beethoven Piano Sonata and expected to put it all together at once and play it.

Even an advanced player learns a piece ‘hands alone’, as in, learning the right hand separately from the left hand and then, eventually, putting them together.

There’s a long road from

beginning student to a sonata.

Breaking things down to their element and practicing, practicing, practicing… that’s the goal with learning anything, from the piano to persuasion.

I think everything is powerful in its simplicity and

when we start junking it up

with too much complexity,

that’s when it goes awry.

When I first got involved in the world of persuasion, I thought about all the trainers and teachers in this field who have not succeeded. I realized that it’s partly because they are trying to do all these complex things all together and none of it works.

So what I started doing is going back to the real basics, to the real simple things and say, ‘I’ve got to master this basic idea until I can do it in my sleep, blindfolded, when I’m exhausted, in the middle of my dreams, in the middle of my third dream, I want to do it that way.’

So I started working to do that and I started to put those things together. But all of a sudden the more complex things just started happening. I wondered,

“Why is it that I work on

the basics and the complex things

get better? I don’t get it.”

Well now I get it, and I’ll tell you something, the most profound things in the world are that which are really simple. And when you get really good at it, the big things start coming together more and more.

Take a few moments and evaluate the core of what you’re persuading people to do. What are the simple principles? Focus on these, and watch your results begin to climb.

Remember to connect them to your prospect’s deepest values. To learn more about how to do this, check out the Persuasion Factor at www.PersuasionFactor.com.

Have A Profitable Day,

Kenrick E. Cleveland

Here's How to Use Emotions To Persuade the Affluent

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Side Stepping Logic to Get to the Boss:

The Unconscious

“Logic: The art of thinking and reasoning in strict accordance with the limitations and incapacities of the human misunderstanding.” ~ Ambrose Bierce

When it comes to persuading the affluent, or anyone for that matter, we’ve got to dig deeper… into uncharted waters… where most business people are afraid to go. We’ve got to appeal to the unconscious mind, using emotions in our selling.

Our conscious mind can only hold seven (plus or minus two) bits of information at a time. Seven bits of information. . . that’s not a whole lot, is it?

Think about how many things there are to think about–the smell of a peeled orange, the way the ceiling fan feels, the pebble in your shoes, the feel of the ring on your finger, the sound of the car outside, the child crying, the rumble in your stomach, the itch on your neck, the song on the radio. . . on and on and on.

There are so many things going on around us at any given moment that there is absolutely no way for the conscious mind to pay attention to and process almost all of it. It just goes to show you just what a huge job our unconscious has.

So what happens to the information around us that is available to us at any moment in time, but that we don’t pay attention to. Where’s it going? Well, it goes into our other-than-conscious. It’s not that it isn’t perceived–it is often being perceived–it’s just that we’re not consciously aware of it.

I would argue that there’s too much being made of what we are as a consciousness, so to speak. People think that we have logic therefore we are and that’s not true. What’s in our conscious mind is of the least importance. It does separate us from lesser conscious things like maybe dirt or trees or a building, but the mind is like an iceberg; It’s the tiny sliver that sticks above the water compared to the giant amount that’s actually underneath.

The same is true with the way our conscious and unconscious mind works. We pay attention to that tiny little sliver that we see out there in the world when in reality it’s all of the other perceptions that are also coming in to influence us.

How do we take the conscious mind of another individual, the tip of their iceberg, and set it aside so it doesn’t object to us as we go directly and access the real boss, the unconscious mind?

Knowing that this is the case, we need to realize it’s true that people are actually persuaded based on emotional things that are going on with them, not logical things. Logic helps, but people make the decision emotionally and they back it up logically.

So we want to give them some logic at the end so that they feel good about what they’ve done emotionally, but that’s about the extent of it. We need not over-stress about what the person is consciously thinking, but learn to appeal to the unconscious through all these different kinds of strategies that we’re talking about here in these posts.

When we elicit criteria we’re side stepping logic and getting to the core of what’s important for the prospect or client.

For example, let’s say their top value is ‘Freedom’. When we trigger their need for freedom we’re stirring up a whole cauldron of emotions. For an ‘away from’ personality this could range from when that ex-employer humiliated them, to when they felt trapped in a bad relationship, to, possibly, when they were stuck in traffic on the way to see you.

For that ‘towards’ person, they’re feeling that time when they were on their yacht or the day they finally had enough money in the bank, I like to call it ‘F-you’ money, to dictate their own terms in business and in life. They’re feeling that freedom and want more of it.

So the way you interact with that emotion of humiliation or frustration or rage (in the ‘away from’ person) or the liberation and feeling of dominion (in the ‘towards’ personality) and make your product or service the antidote (away) or access to more of (towards), then you will have succeeded in navigating the uncharted, murky (emotional) landscape where most business transactions are afraid to go.

What are some examples from your business life when you allowed yourself to be fearless in the face of (gasp!) emotion? How were you able to make a connection that transcended the logical mind?

Keep checking in to the MAXpersuasion blog for upcoming posts on hundreds of other persuasion topics!

Until next time,

Kenrick E. Cleveland

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Are you harnessing the power of Need?

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The Power Of Need: Using Need To Persuade

“Nothing has more strength than dire necessity.” ~ Euripides

One of the most basic strategies in sales and marketing is fulfilling a need. You always want to feed a hungry crowd. Every crowd has a different hunger, so how do you know who wants what? And how do you use this strategy to persuade your affluent prospects?

What are you thinking about right now? Maybe the words on the screen, maybe just the sentences as you read them. You’re probably not thinking about bananas. Well. . .now you are, but you weren’t before I brought them up. Right? But if your doctor told you that you needed to eat one banana a day to help with your potassium levels, you might think about bananas more often.

We do not, nor could we, think about bananas twenty-four hours a day. But necessity (i.e. a doctor’s advice for your health) can bring them to the forefront more often than normal.

The part of the brain responsible for consciousness is the Reticular Activating System. It is thought to be the center of motivation and arousal and is involved in most of the central nervous system’s activity (including sleep and wakefulness). The reticular activating system is what helps us pay attention to things that we need to pay attention to and put away those things we can afford to disregard.

Studies have shown that the conscious mind can hold about seven bits of information at any given point in time. (What happens to all the information around us that is available to us at any moment in time, but that we don’t pay attention to? Look for more information on this in an upcoming article: ‘Side Stepping Logic to Get to the Big Boss: The Unconscious’.)

I just got a new car. When I was shopping around and finally decided on what I wanted, a Lexus 350 ES, all of the sudden, everywhere I went, I began seeing Lexus 350 ES’s on the road. I thought, “I had no idea that there were this many Lexus 350 ES’s out there”.

The thing is. . . they were there all along. I just wasn’t paying attention to them and so didn’t realize how many there were. My Reticular Activating System didn’t direct my attention to this particular car because it had nothing to do with what I needed (or wanted) until that point and therefore wasn’t necessary in my conscious mind.

When you’re driving down the freeway, singing along to the radio, you’re probably thinking about what you’re going to do when you get to your destination, you aren’t thinking of using the bathroom, unless you need to. You aren’t thinking of getting some water, unless you’re thirsty. You aren’t thinking of stopping at a gas station for gas, unless you’re running out. You aren’t thinking of stopping for food, unless you’re hungry.

But once you need any of these, they become extremely important and they are part of your conscious thought processes until the need has been satisfied. All of the sudden, it doesn’t matter what’s on the stereo or what the scenery looks like. All that matters are the road signs telling us what’s available to eat, where the next gas station is, etc.

What happened to those thoughts before? Well, they really weren’t in our consciousness. Once these thoughts begin to hold relevancy we can seize control of them and leverage them to our advantage, then put them away when they’re no longer applicable to us.

This speaks a lot to criteria (the values, wants, and needs of a person). By eliciting a person’s criteria we can bring to bear those subtle aspects in a person’s reality that apply to their criteria. When you elicit the criteria of your affluent prospect, you speak to their values at even a higher level and essentially you are fine tuning their Reticular Activating System to your advantage (and to their’s).

What are some examples of how we can use ‘need’ in business? In real estate? In financial planning? Criteria elicitation (finding the very deepest desires of your prospect) is crucial to pointing us in the right direction to satisfy those needs. Once you know the direction to take a person, persuading him/her will come naturally.

Until next time,

Kenrick E. Cleveland

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