A very spiritual woman I know shared the following with me: she said, ‘I used to have unfortunate beliefs about myself and I received back from external influences unfortunate results. When I decided to take control and raise my resonance, to be the change I wanted to become, to allow abundance and love come flow through me, absolutely everything fell into place. I am now living a life of leisure with a beautiful husband and I can draw what I want into my universe at will.’
What does it take to be a love magnet, or a money magnet, or a health magnet?
It takes a shift in perception and really, that’s all it takes.
We choose what to focus on. We choose to be really bummed out when it rains, or we choose to appreciate the downpour as a great opportunity to take care of indoor activities, or even better, to leave the umbrella at home and go for a walk. One person’s inconvenience is another’s puddle splashing fun.
When we focus on good, good comes to us. When we focus on grief, we grieve. This is not to say there’s no place for grief in life, it’s just to say, we need to be mindful that we’re not suffering over our own suffering. We do not need to be grief magnets.
I overheard a girl in a café the other day telling her friend, ‘I’m a freak magnet. I can’t leave my apartment without running into someone either clinically insane or whacked out on drugs or fanatical about some weirdness who wants to have extensive interaction with me.’
The friend responded, ‘That’s so strange. You live in a really nice place, in a really nice neighborhood. You wouldn’t think there’d be that many weirdoes around.’
‘They’re everywhere I am. It’s like they’re out there waiting for me to leave my house just so they can shout in my face or try to get me to join their cult.’
I thought to myself how awful it was for this girl to have this belief about herself, that no matter where she goes, no matter what she’s doing, she’s going to draw the lowest common denominator to her.
This is really how attraction works. What you think about yourself, you are. What you believe about the world, is your reality. What you speak, is your truth.
I almost wanted to say to her, ‘You know, you could just as easily not be a ‘freak magnet’ by simply telling yourself that you’re another kind of magnet.’ Then I realized that, sadly, my intrusion would only further confirm her self-diagnosis and she’d misinterpret my advice as more freakery, as in, ‘Yeah, this guy came up to me in the café and told me to be another kind of magnet. He looked pretty normal, but what a freak!’
So whatever your beliefs are about the world, I implore you, take this freak’s advice and adjust it to bring you all that you ever wanted and not the lowest common denominator.
Kenrick
PS… Be sure to post your comments and thoughts on the blog.
Hi,
Recently I began looking for quotes that show the power of belief.
What I found surprised me.
While I prefer to focus on the positive, these show just how powerful beliefs can be. (I’ll be posting more of these on Twitter so be sure you are following me there. And of course, I’ll follow you back. Just click here to add me.)
Here’s a few of what I found.
“Heavier-than-air flying machines are impossible.” (Lord Kelvin, president, Royal Society, 1895)
“I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.” (Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, 1943)
“There is no reason for any individual to have a computer in their home.” (Ken Olsen, president, chairman and founder of Digital Equipment Corp., 1977)
“The telephone has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication. The device is inherently of no value to us.” (Western Union internal memo, 1876)
“Airplanes are interesting toys but of no military value.” (Marshal Ferdinand Foch, French commander of Allied forces during the closing months of World War I, 1918)
From a persuasion standpoint, you can clearly see the problem you’d have if you needed persuade any of these people. Their beliefs would clearly need to be addressed. But it goes beyond merely addressing them. This effects their entire world view. And if others had bought into their positions, where would we be today?
But the bigger lesson here is the realization that beliefs (including values) really do run our lives. They shape what we see and what we don’t see. They enable us to be rich and successful or poor and limited.
The great thing is that WE HAVE CHOICE.
Examine what you believe about why you are where you are today. Examine why you do or do not have the money you want. And examine why you are creating the life of your dreams or are manifesting the excuses as to why you don’t have it. It’s your choice – choose well.
Now, tell me your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you. And while you’re at it, share this post on Twitter, if you would.
Kenrick
Sure enough. Tony Robbins said that to a woman crying her eyes out when we worked with her on stage.
And guess what happened.
She stopped crying.
In fact, she just stopped.
Finally she stammered, “What do you mean?”
And Tony told her she was crying so hard it looked like someone peed on her face.
She was silent and than began to laugh.
Tony was able to move her to a place where he could work on her problem.
A lot of the people you meet as a persuader are stuck in their own minds.
And we as persuaders need to be able to ask them – “Who Peed On Their Face”.
However, I suspect if you aren’t on stage like Tony AND you don’t have Tony’s leverage, that might not be the wisest strategy.
Instead, let me show you how I persuade today using Kenrick’s Persuasion Interrupts.
Go here to view the short video:
Hi,
I just read a great article by Marci Shimoff, author of Happy for No Reason, where she talks about having heard a new term called Brightsiding.
Marci says, “It’s based on the belief that although you can’t control the outer events of your life, you can control your outlook. The main components of brightsiding are expressing gratitude, maintaining a sense of humor, and enjoying time with the people you love.”
Marci suggests a way to implement the word:
1. Identify a difficult situation you are encountering.
2. List 3 things you are grateful for about that situation.
3. Find one thing, no matter how small, that is humorous about what’s happening.
Being grateful is a really profound thing you can do for yourself. And being grateful for aspects of difficult situations helps them to pass more easily. If you learned the lesson, the energy isn’t stuck and you can move on.
I found a really great application for my new Iphone that helps me maintain this focus all the time and keep me brighsiding. You can see it here: http://happytapper.com/. If you have an Iphone, it’s $.99.
Thanks to Marci for giving me another really great word to add to my lexicon. You can learn more about Marci and her work here: www.HappyForNoReason.com/.
Practice Brightsiding today and watch your world turn better right before your eyes.
Kenrick E. Cleveland
Hi Persuader,
I read an interesting article recently, the point of which said the number one question people ask of themselves, basically human being’s most favorite question is: What if? I don’t know if the writers of the article have any research backing it up, but on a gut instinct, it seems about right (and from three decades of learning and constantly attempting to perfect my skills as a persuasion expert, I am very well acquainted and comfortable with my gut instincts.)
What if? What the article said is that the problem with asking this question is that most people go the wrong direction with it. They say, what if I don’t make any more money? What if life goes to hell in a hand basket? What if there’s a problem? What if I don’t succeed? What if I embarrass myself?
That’s the wrong direction for it to go. The right way to use ‘what if’ is this: what if this works magnificently? What if this becomes the way of the future? What if I discover a way to be on the leading edge? What if life becomes so good, that it just is unreal? What if I’m thrilled with where this takes me? In other words, ask what if but work upward with it, not downward with it. (more…)
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