Have you ever been blown away by a magician’s act?

Here is a question I get from time-to-time and just got it again, so thought I’d answer it here on the blog. It comes from one of our readers named George.

I’m very curious Kenrick with no offense.

If you are a masterful communicator and can persuade others to take action with hypnotic language.what stopped you from doing that with yourself years ago with the weight issue?

I’m glad your healthier 🙂

Hi George,

Well… many times, while experiencing what I do, people exclaim – “Jesus – incredible“… and in that moment, I’m always reminded of the fact that I have not yet arrived at that level.

I have many failings – I have failed to implement a strategy to create the kind of net worth I should have by now, I’ve not always made the best choices in women (past tense), still occasionally find myself getting ticked off when a taxi driver cuts me off on the road and even though I’ve made significant progress, have not yet mastered my weight/fitness.

In fact, there are SO many areas that I have failed to master that I think I might need at least several more lifetimes – but alas, I still may not reach all that is possible. That is the bitter sweet reality of life. We can always strive to be better, and we will never reach all that is possible.

Even something as obvious as using my programming skills on myself is not as obvious as it might seem. Have you ever been blown away by a magician’s act? Perhaps the magician literally disappeared something right in front of you. You were amazed. And then, later on, you learned the trick… and you were equally amazed at how you didn’t see what he was really doing at the time. It lost it’s magic. Ever experienced that? You will find quite a corollary to your question there.

The one thing I am, is always reaching for the brass ring. You know, like they used to have on the old Merry-Go-Rounds? If you were lucky and could get on a horse on the outside, you could reach for that ring. If you got it, you’d get a free ride. Even though I didn’t get the ring every time I tried (in fact, I only occasionally got it), it didn’t prevent me from excitedly trying.

The lesson is, that it was the enjoyment of the ride where the focus belongs, not the failure to get the ring. And as a kid, I couldn’t wait to ride again.

All the things that I could count as failures, along with my successes, have created who I am today. I know who I am. And I know who I am not. I am not Jesus and ask not that you blindly follow. I have my faults and limitations. And I have my strengths and expertise.

Far as I can tell, there is no one alive today who has mastered it all. If you should find a person who claims they have, run.

As to learning the inner workings of persuasion, I can and do pull back the curtain to the magic and show how it works. More importantly you can learn how to do wondrous magic when you want. It will then be your task as well to apply it to your own life. It is worth the effort – but only you can determine where to aim your attention to reap the rewards you most want.

I hope this helps clear up the mystery.

And thanks for writing and asking. I’m glad I’m healthier too.

P.S. Please let me know what you think. Leave a comment below.

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Alan Strydom - July 31, 2011

True words Kenrick. In my own life I’ve finally realized that the steps of getting there is the quality of Being there… i.e, it’s the journey, not the destination. Our passions drive our journey, and following your passion is following your bliss. You’re an expert in your field, you’ve overcome much, you know how to impart your knowledge, and you’re human. These are all fine qualities.

Kenrick Cleveland - July 31, 2011

Thanks Alan. Well said.

James - August 16, 2016

As I read this it makes me think back to my own obstacles. Like you from time to time I get upset when I get cut off by a car, still. But thankfully less than before. But I believe one of the most powerful things I have learned from this is because I am now good enough with these skills I do not need to try and persuade everyone I come across. You see this past weekend I went to LA and got into an argument with a family member on Friday. I choose to walk way because I now know some people are not worth my time to persuade. Through the weekend I heard stories of how this same family member was getting in arguments with other family members and on Sunday the argument got physical and the cops where called. I later found out this family member is struggling with drug addiction. Thank You Kendrick for giving me the skills of persuasion, without it I don’t know if I would have gained the knowledge of when to walk away.


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